Hope

During the healing process some days hope will feel tangible while other days will feel completely hopeless.

 

Finding hope in the early days of betrayal can be difficult, but finding purpose and meaning in your pain can help you through the process.   

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Remind yourself that you cannot expect to have all good days, especially when you are emotionally and psychologically wounded. Hope comes from being consistent with your healing work. Recognize and celebrate progress when you see it. 

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Remind yourself that you are a different person from when you started this work and you'll be a different person in a year from now. Especially if you are doing the real work to shift from victim to creator.  

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Finding a partner that lives and values honesty is possible. 

Like anything, with practice you become more adept at spotting liars and their patterns. You may not feel like you can trust a new partner now, but you can work towards trusting yourself more. By trusting yourself you can trust that you can handle difficult situations when they come up in the future.  As you start to spend time with a new potential partner you can ask questions that help you determine their values and see how they treat others to determine how honest they are.  

 

As they get to know you, they can begin to better understand your past hurts and your triggers. An empathetic and compassionate partner will not rush you to trust them, love them or marry them. If they truly understand you, they understand that your trust must be earned over time.  

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