8. Being deceived doesn't mean being stupid

You can accelerate your healing by stepping out of your own situation and imagining you are comforting someone you care about who has just gone through a similar experience.

 

It is always a revelation when we see clearly how hard we are being on ourselves and how much more loving we instinctively are to someone else. This is true for most women, not just those who have been involved with liars and sociopaths.

 

Remind yourself regularly that you did the best you could with the level of awareness you had. Especially if his lies were persistent you did the best you could with the information HE gave you.

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Persistent liars are very slick and persuasive. Give yourself a break. It’s time to start being as good a friend to yourself as you are to others.

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